Tag: children

  • Gender Politics

    Gender Politics

    Photo by Tim Mossholder from Pexels.

    **This is a personal website and reflects my thoughts and convictions. It does not represent any official position held by Youth With A Mission.**

     

    I did not see this coming!  Just a few years ago I had never heard the term “gender dysphoria” and I would have never guessed that it would be politically weaponised.

    But now, Sky News reports:

    The Tavistock and Portman NHS Trust (UK) offers gender identity services for children under 18, with some patients as young as three or four years old.

    They now have a record number of referrals and see 3,200% more patients than they did 10 years ago – with the increase for girls up by 5,337%.

    (Please note that this article is not about our attitudes towards people with sexual identity issues; it does not offer pastoral or counselling advice.  That is another very important topic that is beyond the scope of this article.)

    The numbers of children and young adults requesting sex change procedures is still relatively small, but the extraordinary growth patterns point to an epidemic.  What impact is it likely to make over the next decade or two?  Some people who transitioned years ago have begun to speak up:

    Ruby is now 21 but first began identifying as male at 13.  After taking testosterone her voice got a lot deeper, she grew facial hair and her body changed.  She had been planning to have surgery to remove her breasts this summer.

    However, in May, Ruby voiced the growing doubts she had been harbouring and made the decision to come off testosterone and detransition to identify as female.

    “I didn’t think any change was going to be enough in the end and I thought it was better to work on changing how I felt about myself, than changing my body,” says Ruby. 

    Charlie Evans, 28, was born female but identified as male for nearly 10 years before detransitioning.

    The number of young people seeking gender transition is at an all-time high, but we hear very little, if anything, about those who may come to regret their decision.  There is currently no data to reflect the number who may be unhappy in their new gender or who may opt to detransition to their biological sex.

    Charlie detransitioned and went public with her story last year – and said she was stunned by the number of people she discovered in a similar position.

    “I’m in communication with 19 and 20-year-olds who have had full gender reassignment surgery who wish they hadn’t, and their dysphoria hasn’t been relieved, they don’t feel better for it,” she says.

    If you would like to read more, quotes from the Sky News article are taken from:

    https://news.sky.com/story/hundreds-of-young-trans-people-seeking-help-to-return-to-original-sex-11827740

    Considering the growing number of people wanting to detransition, or at least wishing they hadn’t started the process, surprisingly, few of the proponents of gender transition have not suggested caution, or that more research should be done.  They claim that even talking about detransition is transphobic.  To me, that suggests that this is not primarily about helping people, but it must be part of some strange, possessing ideology.  Gender identity has been made a political weapon.

    There is so much publicity on this subject that you might think it is very common for babies to be born with unclear sex identity, so I looked it up.  Some say that as many as one in 2,500 children cannot be identified at birth as either male or female, but others say it is not that high, but closer to one in 5,000.  This has become a major social issue, not because it is a biological reality, but because it is a consequence of a political philosophy.

    Different shades of that political philosophy dominate the liberal arts courses of our universities and have done so for a generation.  Now they are being worked out in everyday social mores and in law.

    In 2007, Christopher Dummitt was one of the first academic authors to make the case that gender is not primarily a biological issue, but that it is socially constructed.  He recently wrote a humble confession in Quillette magazine where he admitted that, “The problem was, and is, that I was making it all up.”

    His article is important and revealing, so I am quoting it at length:

    When the American Historical Association surveyed the trends among major fields of specialization in 2007, and then again in 2015, the single largest field was women’s and gender history. This was right up there with social history, cultural history, and the history of race and sexuality. Each of these fields shared the same worldview as I did—that just about every identity was a social construction. And, that identity was all about power. (My added emphasis.)

    Back then, quite a few people disagreed with me. Almost nobody who hadn’t been exposed to such theories at a university could bring themselves to believe that sex was wholly a social construct, because such beliefs went against common sense. That’s what makes it so amazing that the cultural turnaround on this issue has happened so quickly. Reasonable people might readily admit that some—and maybe a lot—of gender identity is socially constructed, but did this really mean that sex doesn’t matter at all? Was gender solely based on culture? Yes, I would insist. And then I would insist some more. There’s nothing so certain as a graduate student armed with precious little life experience and a big idea.

    And now my big idea is everywhere. It shows up especially in the talking points about trans rights, and policy regarding trans athletes in sports. It is being written into laws that essentially threaten repercussions for anyone who suggests that sex might be a biological reality. Such a statement, for many activists, is tantamount to hate speech. If you take the position that many of my ’90s-era debating opponents took—that gender is at least partly based on sex, and that there really are two sexes (male and female), as biologists have known since the dawn of their science—uber-progressives will claim you are denying a trans person’s identity, which is to say, wishing ontological harm upon another human being.

    But what I can offer is a mea culpa for my own role in all of this, and a detailed critique about why I was wrong then, and why the radical social constructionists are wrong now. I once made the same arguments that they now make, and so I know how they are mistaken.

    If you would like to read the rest of that confession, it is available online:

    https://quillette.com/2019/09/17/i-basically-just-made-it-up-confessions-of-a-social-constructionist/

    (A book by Stephen Hicks, Explaining Postmodernism, helped me understand the ideology/philosophy behind this thinking.  Another very good source of context is a 43-minute video by Jordan Peterson:

    A friend and I did a long, high altitude hike this past summer in my home state of Colorado and we finished our week in a beautiful resort town.  As we trudged the final mile up the main street, which was busy with tourists, I saw a young boy wearing lipstick and eye-shadow; then I saw another a bit farther on, and then another. I was full of questions I couldn’t ask of the boys or their parents:

    Why?  When did it start?  Was there a triggering event? Does he wear make-up every day?  Is he receiving therapy and puberty blockers?  What was your response initially?  Before he started trying to look more like a girl, did he have a friend or friends who had led the way?  Was he bullied by peers, or rejected by an adult?

    As the book and lectures I have cited explain, this ideology is a re-packaging of Marxism and an all-out attack on the nations that have produced the greatest individual freedom, opportunities and prosperity in human history.

    As we resist this toxic ideology, we must also treat each person with empathy and respect.  So, let me be very clear: this article does not aim to provide any guidance for the pastoral care of someone experiencing uncertainty, or dissatisfaction with their sexual identity.

    What I have aimed to do is to convey an important message:  BE ALERT!  DON’T EXPERIMENT WITH CHILDREN’S LIVES!

    We are allowing an ideology that destroyed millions of lives in the 20th century to resurrect itself and don new clothing.  Now we are experimenting with the lives of millions of children.  If the influence of the ideology continues to grow, the chances of this turning out well are nil.

    Lynn Green.

  • Family: God’s Loving and Kind Design

    Family: God’s Loving and Kind Design

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    **This is a personal website and reflects my thoughts and convictions. It does not represent any official position held by Youth With A Mission.**

    I’m sitting at my computer with my wife of nearly 50 years just a few feet away, in front of a warm wood fire.  These circumstances stir up thoughts about the goodness of God and the infinite intelligence displayed in his design of family.

    SHAPING ONE ANOTHER

    We have been companions for the past 5 decades.  Some moments have been hard, fractious and frustrating, but the overwhelming themes have been love, mutual support, encouragement, affection, intimacy, warmth and complementary abilities.  We have loved one another and, at the same time, have discipled one another.

    We have seen four children into adulthood, into marriage and into parenthood.  We look back at many things we could have done better.  Things we know now that we wish we had known then.  We have been humbled by our failures as parents and basked in the joy of seeing our children do great things.

    AT LEAST THREE GENERATIONS

    We deeply enjoy the pleasure of 11 grandchildren, all of whom live within a short distance of us—a blessing we never anticipated.  But, even though all our children have travelled widely and are mostly still engaged in other nations, they have chosen to live near us—a pleasure find hard to believe!

    Our marriage relationship has been the primary human factor in shaping our Christian lives.  We have argued, been angry or hurt many times, but the Holy Spirit has used these times to bring us to conviction, repentance and positive change.  Our children and grandchildren have provoked us to a rich prayer life together—alternating between desperation at times, and gratitude.

    PURE LOVING-KINDNESS

    Surely it is the unfathomable love of God that resulted in the design of family.  He kindly, you might say lavishly, made us male and female.  He decided that our intimate love with one another would result, normally, in children.  He planned for the children to be nurtured in the love between a man and a woman and that their humble, determined, but joyful efforts to make their relationship work would prepare their children for satisfying living in a sinful and suffering world.

    REDEEMING EVERY SITUATION

    And then, He made provision for those whose lives have not begun or been shaped in the context He designed.  Where children have been born and/or raised outside of a grace-filled love between a man and a woman, He extends his loving-kindness to redeem those lives and “make all things new”.

    MORE THAN WONDERFUL

    This Providential design is too wonderful for us to treat it dismissively or to decide that we can do better.  Though He can redeem all things, we are wise to seek the best of His original design.

    I think I’ll join my wife by the fire now.

    Lynn.

  • Time Bombs – In Education

    Time Bombs – In Education

     

    **This is a personal website and reflects my thoughts and convictions. It does not represent any official position held by Youth With A Mission.**

    Do you ever read something that contains a new thought, and then that thought begins to trigger little time bombs in your mind? That is, it continues to set off other new thoughts over the following days and weeks. Obviously that happens to me or I would not be mentioning it!

    EDUCATION FOR THE INDUSTRIAL REVOLUTION

    I read a statement which claimed that our current format for schools and education is the product of the industrial revolution. Leaders of formative industries needed to find a way to free adults from the responsibilities of caring for and educating their children so they could work in factories. So education, as we know it, developed as a by-product of the drive for economic growth and wealth creation.  Most of the workers producing this wealth were parents working long days while their children were in school.

    This cultural shift resulted in new and highly valued freedoms.  Boys were no longer destined to stay in the trade of their fathers and girls began a path to more opportunity than ever before.   I am grateful for all the wealth created; it has resulted in many benefits—better health, housing, food, literacy, democratic processes—the list could get very long.

    PARENTAL RESPONSIBILITY

    However, this must have some implications for how we think about education. I for one have long felt that the primary responsible for educating, training, developing children lies with parents and yet our current arrangement places that responsibility firmly in the hands of professional educators. They are the ones who have our children for the majority of their waking hours. Our cultural and financial expectations push us to turn our children over to others at a very young age.  We rarely know those “others” well enough to be confident about what they are teaching and whether or not they will model the values held by the parents.  They in turn have been shaped by professional educators and the content of what they teach is usually mandated by government policy and educational specialist in the sphere of government.  Is this a healthy thing?

    DESTRUCTIVE EDUCATION

    Most Christian parents on either side of the Atlantic over recent years will have been concerned about several aspects of the education of their children.  Recently, we have seen the shift towards sex education including redefining marriage, gender fluidity, normalising transgender medical procedures, etc.  These subjects are important.  However, equally or more important is the teaching of such foundational subjects as English literature, History and Science with a studied absence of any reference to God or any higher authority.  Our children usually absorb the idea that human intellect is the highest authority and that morals and values are relative and evolving.  Understandably, most Christian parents harbour some level of concern that the nature of their children’s education, if it is provided by State schools, does not build any sort of foundation of faith and is almost always actively destructive to Christian faith and behaviour.

    WHERE ARE THE NEW MODELS?

    At the same time, and paradoxically, the Christian community has a growing confidence in the intellectual integrity and consistency of their faith.  Yet we have little or no opportunities to impart that confidence to our children.  We are simply too busy to do that, and so out of practical necessity, we accept that professional educators will shape our children and to a great extent their beliefs.  I conclude that we have to “swim against the tide” and develop more ways to educate our children in the beauty of our faith.  We were created to “love the Lord our God with all our heart, mind, soul and strength”.  Without concerted, God-centred education, our children will not be likely to obey this, “the greatest of all commandments”.

    WHAT ARE WE MULTIPLYING?

    These thoughts have led me to think again about how we help less developed nations.  Christian missionaries and workers are often on the frontline of providing assistance, technology and finance to nations and peoples who are less developed. One of our assumptions is that they need schools like our schools.  Many Christians have committed themselves to developing education systems in poorer nations.  I have been to some of those schools and they can be wonderful.  The teachers are trained in the best of education principles but are also spurred on in their spiritual growth and their Christ-centred living.  But are we possibly imparting a system that is too vulnerable to follow the path of our developed nations?  Should we be looking at ways to engaged parents more in the process of developing their children?  Is the accepted format for education with at least five long days a week spent in school the best we can do?  Is the system itself somehow flawed?

    TAKING EDUCATION BACK FROM GOVERNMENT

    I am convinced that centralised, national governments are not the appropriate authority for overseeing education.  We will probably always want and need professional educators, but they should be directly accountable to parents.  We will have to work out more ways to develop good standards and oversight without abdicating our God-given, parental mandate. There are some workable models in developed nations so we are not starting from scratch.

    I don’t have any complete answers at this point, but I think change often begins with asking the best questions.  Maybe you have some questions to go along with mine.  Than after thinking about the questions we might start finding some steps towards a better approach to education, one that does not so thoroughly drive a wedge between parents and children.  We are suffering because of this separation which may not always be caused by education, but there is certainly an educational contribution to it.

    IT IS OUR RESPONSIBILITY

    If we continue to pray the prayer the Lord taught us, “Thy Kingdom come, Thy will be done…” then perhaps He has some new ways for us to think about how His kingdom comes in the education and development of our children.

    Lynn Green.